http://hollyeburne.com/alzheimers-and-related-dementia/how-does-my-husband-feel-about-having-dementia/ Enriching Lives, One Step at a Time Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:18:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://hollyeburne.com/alzheimers-and-related-dementia/how-does-my-husband-feel-about-having-dementia/comment-page-1/#comment-26 hollyeburne Tue, 04 Aug 2009 04:34:28 +0000 http://hollyeburne.wordpress.com/?p=157#comment-26 Hi Deedee, Whenever you write to me, it is like you are one of my children. I can feel your pain. As my husband's condition worsens, my biological children will probably feel your level of pain as well. I am so grateful to be connecting with people like yourself. This journey isn't as lonely or overwhelming when you can speak with other people who understand. I know what you mean about trying to control something, anything...because there is no controlling FTD. There are times when I do the same thing. Thank you again for staying in touch. All the best, Holly Hi Deedee,
Whenever you write to me, it is like you are one of my children. I can feel your pain. As my husband’s condition worsens, my biological children will probably feel your level of pain as well. I am so grateful to be connecting with people like yourself. This journey isn’t as lonely or overwhelming when you can speak with other people who understand.
I know what you mean about trying to control something, anything…because there is no controlling FTD. There are times when I do the same thing.
Thank you again for staying in touch.
All the best,
Holly

]]> http://hollyeburne.com/alzheimers-and-related-dementia/how-does-my-husband-feel-about-having-dementia/comment-page-1/#comment-25 deedee Tue, 04 Aug 2009 03:49:37 +0000 http://hollyeburne.wordpress.com/?p=157#comment-25 Hi Again , Holly....I was out of town and did not catch up on your blog till tonight. I read this post with a lump in my throat when I got to the part where he tells you he is glad you 'put up with him'. Mom says that, too. She says those exact same words. She says, "Oh, you and [my sister] and {my brother} shouldn't have to put up with me, I'm such a user, but I appreciate it, and I will pay you one day." I say to her, no, you are my MOM, I love you, and you would (and did) take care of your Mom when she was ill, and I owe you so much. Part of me knows i say it more for ME, than her, because my Mom doesn't quite understand things these days. Keep posting, I really did appreciate reading about how your children are doing. I am 38 years old, myself, and can't imagine what your kids must be going through, 10 years my junior. I worry more for my little brother than me and sis. He is only 32, and he, too, was in some sort of denial for the longest time. He still tries to have these conversations with her, and one time it was me who told him that Mom doesn't understand him. He kind of retorted that he has every right to tell her whatever he so chooses, even if it doesn't get through to her...I stepped back a bit at that point. I just feel like controlling so much of what is happening to her that I am able TO control, does that make any sense? Sorry for my rambling tonight. Take care, Holly, DeeDee Hi Again , Holly….I was out of town and did not catch up on your blog till tonight. I read this post with a lump in my throat when I got to the part where he tells you he is glad you ‘put up with him’. Mom says that, too. She says those exact same words. She says, “Oh, you and [my sister] and {my brother} shouldn’t have to put up with me, I’m such a user, but I appreciate it, and I will pay you one day.” I say to her, no, you are my MOM, I love you, and you would (and did) take care of your Mom when she was ill, and I owe you so much. Part of me knows i say it more for ME, than her, because my Mom doesn’t quite understand things these days. Keep posting, I really did appreciate reading about how your children are doing. I am 38 years old, myself, and can’t imagine what your kids must be going through, 10 years my junior. I worry more for my little brother than me and sis. He is only 32, and he, too, was in some sort of denial for the longest time. He still tries to have these conversations with her, and one time it was me who told him that Mom doesn’t understand him. He kind of retorted that he has every right to tell her whatever he so chooses, even if it doesn’t get through to her…I stepped back a bit at that point. I just feel like controlling so much of what is happening to her that I am able TO control, does that make any sense? Sorry for my rambling tonight. Take care, Holly, DeeDee

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