Living with Dementia: Organized Chaos

Organized chaos…it must look like my life is busy from the outside with balancing work, home, family, caring for my husband, Dave, with frontotemporal dementia, and fitting in ‘me’ time, but I found a secret for staying calm–most of the time. It is called exercise. Sometimes it is a bike ride, a run, Nordic hike, kayak or gardening. Whatever it is–without exception–I feel better afterwards. This morning was a good example…

For the past few days I have been busy getting ready (making lists, shopping, chores) for a big fishing trip up north with some friends. (I have never caught a fish and I am quite excited) Anyway, I noticed that my mind was starting to feel like it was in overdrive so I hopped on my mountain bike for a cruise along our country road. Within minutes I started noticing the crystal blue skies (all of the wildfire smoke has disappeared) against the green hills, the smell of fresh air, and the sounds of the birds flitting among the bushes lining the creek. The wind against my face and the feeling of gliding along on my bike was freedom. I was reminded of all of the things in my life that I am grateful for–living on a quiet country road among nature, our sweet animals, my health and Dave’s health–who has done very well since his diagnosis 3 1/2 years ago. It is amazing how great I feel when I quiet the chatter in my brain and surround myself with nature.

Stepping out of the commotion of ‘living with dementia’ is key to seeing the bigger picture of my life. Last year I was standing within a foot of a hummingbird feeder and there were 5 territorial male hummingbirds (3 calliopes & 2 rufous) fighting for a spot on the feeder. It was fascinating to be inside of their ‘organized chaos’ because they managed to buzz around me–without touching me or each other. What an incredible sight. It wasn’t until I stepped back out of their energy that I noticed how calm it was to be on the outside. My bike ride this morning was like stepping out of my chaotic mind chatter. I came back relaxed and rejuvenated. So…any time you feel yourself winding up, lace up your shoes and go for a walk, run, pick weeds or any activity that will get your body moving and in touch with nature. It is a win-win for everybody!